I know you’re a fearless body-loving warrior pretty much all of the time, but once in a while, you might experience a moment when it’s not so easy to remember how amazing you (and your body) really are. For those moments, remember this:
Appreciate everything you have. You have a functioning body (after all, you’re alive and reading this right now!). And it’s tirelessly working for you at all times to the best of its ability. It digests your food, heals your cuts, and lets you know when it’s time to rest. Isn’t that amazing? That your body knows exactly what to do with what you put into it, that a week after a paper cut your skifan will be healed without much conscious brainwork on your part.
Now you have to admit, that’s pretty darn cool.
While you’re at it, why not be grateful for how you feel right now, however you may be feeling?
(Extending gratitude to all other areas of your life and holding constant thoughts of thankfulness are also great for overall joy and love. While you’re at it, thank the stars for your life, your health, this moment and the moments before it that brought you here, this world filled with beautiful moments, your cat or dog or cousin…
I know I’m grateful for the “blah” feeling I had about my body the past few days, because it inspired me to make the decision to feel better and write this post!)
You are here, now. This is the best of all possible moments for you to be living in your body. And your body in this moment is the best of all possible bodies for you right now! Why, you ask? Because this moment is the ONLY possible moment you can live in.
Whatever you ate this morning or didn’t do yesterday doesn’t matter anymore. Yesterday is not now; tonight is not now; now is now, and it’s the almost moment that you have. You can only act right now, and you can choose in this very moment to take extra care of your body, eat what your body needs, and pamper yourself especially today. You can choose to feel better about your body now.
You are here right now. Breathe. You are alive.
This moment is everything you have, and you can make the choice to thrive in it.
Stand/sit up straight. Be aware of your posture. If you’re hunching over because you aren’t comfortable with your body or want to hide yourself, try straightening your posture. Soon enough you’ll find that just putting your body in a stance of confidence will bring you confidence, if you stay aware and continue returning to it when you find yourself slouching again.
Resist the urge to wear sweats and oversized shirts (unless they really do make you feel great!). Resist any thoughts that tell you you don’t deserve this, it’s not a special occasion, plus you feel blah, …
You DO deserve it. You deserve to wear what makes you feel gorgeous and lovely. What’s a special occasion, anyway? Just another day like today. And of course, today is the only day you have right now, so you might as well treat it extra special (because it is!).
So get out of any clothes that accentuate a feeling of “blah”, and dress up! At the very least, wear one of your favorite outfits. Do you have any clothes that just make you feel more powerful and radiant when you wear them? Wear those!
Self-explanatory. Add bubbles or bath salts to the mix, or a luxurious soap.
If you don’t have time in the morning, wake earlier or do it at night. But I swear, it works wonders, as long as you stay mindful and enjoy it rather than getting caught up in thinking about anything other than savoring the experience.
Stand/sit up straight in the bath, too!
I don’t mean going out and shopping or getting a makeover.
I mean basic things that you might think of skipping if you have an attitude of “I already don’t feel great about my body, doesn’t make much sense to…”
Like: washing your face, putting on your favorite necklace, using a special soap bar, putting on lotion, styling your hair, trimming your nails, or even getting out of bed, getting dressed, or showering.
Treat today as if it were just another day that you’re in love with your body and appreciate it for all its goodness. Treat your body as if you love it, and you will love your body more. Treat yourself with respect. Give yourself extra care. Take care of your body; be good to it. Feed it right and enjoy every delicious bite of your food. Honor yourself to the highest extent.
It’s impossible for your body to have changed that much overnight, or even over the course of a week. You’re still the same beautiful being you were yesterday and the day before that, the same beautiful being you were a year ago!
Repeat a mental mantra… “I am beautiful. I am lovely. I am gorgeous and awesome and wonderful. I love myself, I love my body, and I am worthy.” Whenever other thoughts threaten to intrude, gently let them go and bring yourself back to the present, to your mantra, to your beauty. Breathe deeply. You are alive, and you’ve been blessed with another moment!
That’s the reality of living, no matter how you look at it. You can choose to continue feeling bad about your body. Or you can ignore those thoughts and release them out into the wild, replacing them with gratitude, presence, and constant reminders to yourself of how beautiful you really are. If you do it constantly and consistently, I guarantee you’ll feel good about your body.
It’s way too easy to just let ourselves derail and keep on thinking negatively, spiraling down into a place where we just throw up our hands and say, “Screw it all. I suck. I feel blah and I’m not going to do anything about that.” It’s way too easy not to move, to continue wallowing.
To change ourselves, to change our thoughts, takes a bit more effort, a bit more conscious work– it’s true! But that amount of effort will seem like nothing when you begin to experience the benefits of the conscious choice to move into a new direction– a direction of love, happiness, and joy.